Sometimes the 3rd party emails and Facebook messages I receive really frustrate me. A mom I'll call Jean (not her real name) sent this message a few weeks ago:
"I hope my daughter can be half as successful as you. Her gastric bypass is coming up in a few weeks. I've tried to help her lose weight, but she loves hamburgers more than she loves herself. She finds a way to sabotage every diet. She needs to lose about 100 lbs, but if she can lose 50 it'll be better than nothing."
HALF as successful as me? Jean (not her real name), I have no doubt that your daughter can be just as successful as I have been. I've hit my weight loss goal and maintained it since November of last year. I had my surgery in January of 2012 at Catawba Valley Medical Center. Since that time, the tummy modifications my surgeon, Dr. Cox, made have been helping physically, while I work on the mental aspects of staying healthy.
A part of me has wondered if I could've kicked my type 2 diabetes into remission and lost the weight if I'd focused more on cutting carbs and sugars. Then reality sets in and I remember how many diet programs I tried and how much money I wasted in gym memberships. I'd last a few days, weeks or even a few months before I'd cave in and go back to my old habits. The weight would return along with the feelings of failure. I'd eventually tell myself that it was more important to be happy eating and drinking what I like, than to stress over having a breakfast of 2 pieces of toast with jelly and butter, a 3 egg omelette with cheese, turkey sausage and grits on the side. Wow! When I think about what I used to eat in one sitting it blows my mind.
This morning my breakfast consisted of coffee with some protein shake mixed in and about an hour later I tossed back some trail mix. Am I hungry for the 3 egg omelette? Given my history, the answer you might expect is YES. Actually, the answer is no. I couldn't eat the omelette alone and my tiny tummy wouldn't want to try. So you see, its not just my will power that has made me successful. Its a combination of a good surgeon, good hospital, good weight loss coordinators and GOOD SUPPORT AT HOME.
My mom was skeptical at first, but when she realized that the surgery might help reverse the family diabetes curse, she signed on. She has prayed for me, cared for me and believed in me. These days she even prepares healthier meals for me. My question for you is, "Do YOU BELIEVE your daughter can be just as successful as I've been?" Having someone in her corner who believes she can do it will make a world of difference in her new life as a healthier adult.
Please remember this, mom Jean (not her real name), the only thing that makes my case different is that I talk about my surgery on the radio.