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Project Ramona: Preachy Pet Peeve

(pictured at right: My mother and 3 of her sisters. All of them have type 2 diabetes)

It has always gotten on my nerves when people change their lives and get preachy.  You know who I'm talking about... the perpetually single chick who finally finds a husband and now wants to enlighten you about relationships... the dude who got promoted yesterday and now feels the need to tell you how to do your dang job...   I don't want to be THAT person.  Several years ago a friend of a friend lost a bunch of weight.  I made the mistake of telling her how good she looked and then she spent the next 1/2 hour telling me how I could be like her.  I came very close to delivering a classic "Matt and Ramona Show" signature THROAT PUNCH.

If you compliment the way I LOOK since losing 73.9 pounds, I will tell you how good I FEEL.  If you ASK me how I did it, I'll tell you I had gastric bypass surgery in January of 2012 at Catawba Valley Medical Center.   I'll share my diabetes-in-remission testimony and then I'll leave it there.  If you ASK me about what I eat and how much I eat I'll tell you.  If you ask questions about my journey, I'll suggest a seminar.  I simply refuse to be the person offering unsolicited weight loss advice or the person behind you in the buffet line advising you on portion size and food selection.  

I will admit that sometimes its hard to hold back on food advice.  I've had excellent training from Lynn, the dietician for CVMC's surgical weight management program.  When I find out some post-op folks went elsewhere for their surgery, it makes me anxious.  When I learn what they HAVEN'T been told about protein consumption and sugar content I get concerned.  If you have struggled with morbid obesity to the point that you are considering weight loss surgery, you aren't looking for a band-aid.  You are hoping for a permanent resolution.  The permanent resolution is made possible with the help of a team who can help you navigate our high-in-fat, sugar-loaded world long after your surgical incisions have healed.  

The problem for me right now is finding a balance between trying to help people I care about and becoming that annoying preachy person.  Once you've found a way out of the darkness, it's important to find a way to lead other people to the light.  I spent last week at my family reunion and I watched a few diabetic and pre-diabetic relatives eat some things that should NEVER cross their lips.  I had to remind myself that before my surgery, saying NO to those things felt practically impossible.  My type-2 diabetes isn't in remission because I woke up one day and said NO to sugar.  I'm healthier because I sought out help.

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The Link's Ramona Holloway has struggled with weight-loss and diabetes for most of her life. While from time to time she's had success in getting some of the weight off, she's never found an acceptable solution for her diabetes. Join her through video and blogs on this page as she explores surgical weight-loss with Catawba Valley Medical Center.

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