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Daily Dilemma- No Sex For How Long?

Dear Kelly,  I've been married for 18 years and my husband and I stopped having sex over two years ago.  At first I thought he must be cheating but when I confronted him about my suspicions he denied it.  I just couldn't understand how any man could go without sex so I figured he was getting it somewhere else.  However, because I'm dealing with peri-menopause I'm not all that interested in it either but I feel like we need to stay close in order to stay married.  What should I do?


Something Is Missing

Dear Something,  I agree that there needs to be intimacy in order for a couple to stay close.  If you're struggling hormonally, there's a very good chance your husband is in the same boat.  A lack of hormones equals a lack of sex drive.  I think the two of you need to have a heart-to-heart talk so you can begin reconnecting.  You may need to go to marriage counseling, and I definitely think you both need to see your doctor for a complete physical.  Also, remember that intimacy is about more than just sex.  Cuddling, kissing, holding hands, talking, laughing, spending time together…those are also ways to stay close in a relationship.

Hang in there!

Kelly McKay

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