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Daily Dilemma - My Husband, the Martyr

Dear Kelly,

I'm married to a man who constantly complains about how tired he is yet refuses to go to the doctor to get checked out.  Needless to say I'm tired of him playing the martyr.  On top of his constant whining, he never wants to do anything with me or the kids.  So, really, he's become an annoying roommate who's always around yet is never any fun.  I know marriage is supposed to be for better or for worse, but how much crap do I have to take before I'm allowed to ask for a divorce without suffocating on my Catholic guilt?

Venting (Can You Tell?)

Dear Venting,

Feel free to write or call and vent anytime, little lady!  That's what I'm here for and you have a lot to be frustrated about right now.  Although I'm not a fan of ultimatums, this situation calls for one to be made.  You need to insist that he either go in for a check up, or join you for counseling (preferably both), OR you'll go straight to the nearest divorce attorney and file the papers.  If your husband's behavior is causing you emotional harm I can only imagine the damage he's doing to the kids.  For their sake, you need to put a stop to it- one way or another. 

Good luck!
Kelly McKay