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Daily Dilemma- The Family Outkast?

Her dad passed and now his family is ignoring her.

Dear Kelly,

My father passed away several months ago and, ever since then, his family wants nothing to do with me or my brother. My birthday was in August and no one bothered to call or send a card. Even worse, we weren't invited to Thanksgiving at our uncle's- where we've spent every Thanksgiving our entire lives. Our parents have been divorced for a few years so mom was happy that she had us for Thanksgiving, and she actually seems pleased that his side of the family has blown us off. Although, she does think that we remind them too much of dad so they may just need time before they can see us without getting upset.

What do you think?


Dear Hurting,

I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I'm sure the holidays are going to be tough for you, regardless of whether or not you see his side of the family on Christmas. Some advice from someone who's been in your shoes: just try to keep busy and have fun with friends and close family but don't beat yourself up when you have an emotional day. Time is the only thing that really helps you feel better when you lose someone you love. As for your father's relatives, I think you should write them a letter to tell them you miss them. Don't read into anything that's happened since your dad passed. Maybe they simply forgot your birthday and didn't do the traditional Thanksgiving this year. Write them, and see if you get a response.

Keep me posted and hang in there,

Kelly McKay

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