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Daily Dilemma- He's Lost His Funny

Kelly,

I recently got divorced and started dating on-line and am now beginning to wonder if something is wrong with me. After 15 years of marriage, my wife told me that she was bored and wanted to be with someone who loved life. Then all of the women I've met on-line have blown me off after one date. I asked the last gal to explain why she didn't want to go out with me again and she told me that she was attracted to men with a sense of humor. I've always thought I was a fun-loving guy so now I'm wondering if it's possible to lose your funny along with your hair.

Had to share,

I Must Be Boring

Dear I.M.B.B,

I think it's very possible for a person to lose their zest for life as the years go by and, along with that, maybe a little of their "funny" as well. Work, family, the stress of relationships, illnesses, money problems....life in general has a tendency to wear us down if we let it. However, instead of throwing in the towel and saying "I am who I am"- try to figure out what you need to do to become the man your wife had married all those years ago. When you were married did you take enough time off to spend with family and friends or were you a workaholic? Did you do any traveling or were you simply a homebody and a couch potato? Do you have a tendency to think the worst of everything or can you find a positive in even the worst situation? You may want to find a counselor to talk to as it really does help to chat with an unbiased third party, especially if you're at a loss as where to begin fixing what seems to be broken in you. Until you feel in a better place you may want to skip dating.

Hang in there!

Kelly McKay

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