Kelly,
I'm a 30-something career oriented woman with a very busy schedule. I've worked hard to get where I am in my professional life but I'm also wanting more of a personal life. The problem is that any time I meet a man and start dating, he eventually tells me that I'm choosing my job over him. I'm not choosing anything...I have a demanding job but it's how I pay my bills. I feel that, if the roles were reversed, a man would expect a woman to understand his busy schedule because work is work.
Am I wrong?
Single And Fed Up
Dear S.A.F.U.,
You're not wrong. My job keeps me hopping too and I once dated a guy who actually told me he felt I couldn't make enough time for him. Mind you, I was making time to see him at least twice a week (if not three times) but apparently that wasn't enough for him. You can't change who you are and you certainly can't walk away from a successful career in order to find a man. One day you'll happen upon someone who "gets it" and, until then, just work and enjoy time with family and friends.
Take care,
Kelly McKay