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Daily Dilemma - Mr. Mom Turnoff

Dear Kelly,

I met a guy at the grocery store and I was immediately attracted to him.  We went for a coffee and chatted some more and I found him really interesting.  Then, after emailing and talking on the phone for a couple of days he shared with me that he's a stay at home dad with a 2-year old.  He says he doesn't have to work because his ex makes a lot of money, so he's raising their child and she gets visitation on Wednesdays and every other weekend.  Is it horrible that I'm now turned off after finding out he doesn't have a real job?


Gainfully Employed

Dear G.E.,

You can't help how you feel so, no, I don't think it's horrible that you're not attracted to a man who doesn't work outside of the home.  I'm sure you know stay-at-home parents work their butts off and rarely get a time for themselves, but just because you understand and respect what he's doing doesn't mean you should force yourself to date him.  To be honest, I would wonder how in the world he'd ever have time to date if he only gets Wednesdays and every other weekend off from parenting.  Would he want to bring his child with him when you go to dinner?  That would be awkward.  I think he needs to find a single mom to date who relates to his situation and you just need to go back to the drawing board too.

Good Luck!

Kelly McKay